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Ask Sophie: Sex and Chronic Illness
QUESTION
SexWithSophie.com member Emily asks: How do you navigate sex when you're chronically ill with a condition that greatly limits your energy and recovery?
ANSWER
The video gives tips and tricks for anyone suffering from a chronic illness, but here is some of the most helpful advice if you suffer from low energy and prolonged recovery like Emily:
• Communicate your anxieties with your partner
• Incorporate more intimacy without the expectation of sex
• Strengthen your pelvic floor
• Track your symptoms and emotions
• Schedule sex, which sounds very un-sexy, but can be fun
• Plan to take meds, soak in a warm bath, and prep beforehand
• Save your energy by delegating as much as possible
• Find a knowledgeable LMFT, sex therapist, or sexologist
Of course, watch the video for more! I researched a ton of great information on adjustments you can make if you have a specific condition like arthritis, lung disease, dementia, or diabetes to name a few.
POLL
WARNING
Sophie is not a doctor, therapist, or licensed medical or mental health professional. This video is a collection of research, data, and information; it is NOT medical advice. Please consult your provider to discuss your plan and ensure you are healthy enough for sexual activity.
RESOURCES
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CITATIONS
• Benavidez, G. A., Zahnd, W. E., Hung, P., & Eberth, J. M. (2024). Chronic disease prevalence in the US: Sociodemographic and geographic variations by ZIP code tabulation area. Preventing Chronic Disease, 21. https://doi.org/10.5888/pcd21.230267
• Nusbaum, M. R., Hamilton, C., & Lenahan, P. (2003). Chronic illness and sexual functioning. American family physician, 67(2), 347–354.
• Zink, I., & Palter, J. (2020). Sex-Interrupted: Igniting Intimacy While Living With Illness Or Disability.
• Rocketto, L. (2021, May 24). 7 Tips from a Rheumatology Nurse to Help Maintain Sex and Intimacy When Living with a Chronic Illness. CreakyJoints. https://creakyjoints.org/lifestyle/maintain-sex-intimacy-with-chronic-illness
• Department of Health & Human Services. (n.d.). Sex and chronic illness. Better Health Channel. https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/servicesandsupport/Sex-and-chronic-illness#bhc-content
• Sexuality after chronic illness: What to expect. (n.d.). https://www.henryford.com/services/gynecology/sexual-health/sexuality-after-illness
